Showing posts with label Lancelot. Show all posts
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Thursday, 12 February 2026

Arab Summershow 2025

 When people get horrified about me riding while pregnant, I tell them that I'm planning to homeschool, like I was. In terms of controversy, I'm just getting warmed up.

In all seriousness, this wasn't a decision we undertook lightly. It's pretty easy just to say that riding is a risk and no responsible mom would take it. It's also easy to spiral into a pit of depression and doom, which carries plenty of risk on its own. I pretty quickly realized that nothing in pregnancy, or presumably in childrearing, is black and white. It's all a scale of risk vs reward.

please appreciate his post-plaits unicorn hair

With a profound mental health (including PPD) history in my family, I've been utterly bent on not going down that particular rabbit hole. My kid deserves a mentally well mom. For whatever reason, the Lord saw fit to wire my brain in such a manner that it only functions when it has horsy time. I don't make the rules. To my mind, the risk of damaging my body or my baby while riding is puny compared with the risk of damaging my mind and my baby with not riding.

pictured: very good for mental health

So I've been riding.

In fact, I won my Third Level class at Penbritte on Thunder and First Level on Rosemary at four weeks, though I didn't know it yet. Then Chippy, our baby's nickname before we found out the gender and picked an actual name, went on to ride with me at Gauteng Champs. I wrangled my way through this in the trials of the first trimester---and then my second trimester brought glorious release.

The nausea never quite evaporated, but it certainly diminished. My energy bounced back. Everything quit hurting. I started to feel the little thing kick and play in there, we had our gender reveal, and pregnancy abruptly became really fun. So I did the one thing that made sense: entered another horse show.

I'm 35 weeks along now with really swollen feet and zero energy for a proper show recap, but suffice it to say, Lancey and I enjoyed yet another great Summershow and my beautiful little unicorn was perfect in every conceivable way.

the company was pretty perfect, too <3

I asked Erin to ride him in a few classes for me so that he could still go in all of his usual classes and also so that I had somebody to sub in if I felt that I wasn't coping. This worked excellently, because not only did Erin make him go better and better (and bring his turnout to a whole new level), but it also completely removed the pressure from me. I didn't feel like I had to ride every class to get my money's worth; if I felt like skipping it, I could. I didn't end up skipping any but it was great to have that option.

one of the moms made these adorable stall signs

We took a couple of kiddos along, too, and they brought in a significant element of chaos (through no fault of their own), but Lanceyboy remained the calm in the storm. Of course he was perfect for everything. He was perfect to travel, he was perfect in the stable, he was perfectly well-mannered for me to lead around and bath and hand graze even with a belly in the way.

It's the first time I've ever skipped doing arena familiarisation in the Afridome. It would have meant staying an extra night, and we already did four nights, which I thought was more than long enough for the horses. Besides... it's Lancey. I didn't think I needed to worry, and I was right. I rode him right into the Open Geldings class and he was forward, relaxed, focused, and perfectly, perfectly obedient, because of course he was.


Our performance wasn't perfect. Canter-to-walk transitions and big extensions are not exactly easy to do when you have essentially no more abs left and a certain little person kicking you in the kidneys all day. I basically had reschooled Lancey to do his downward transitions mostly off my hands instead of my (amazingly useless) seat, and he did them obediently but not with his usual panache.


I also could not have cared less. I was on my beautiful horse having the time of my life, all with my favourite little passenger riding alongside. It was a really precious horse show memory that we made as a little family---DH, Chippy, and me.

 He didn't place in the Open Geldings, and I immediately knew it was just going to be one of those shows for us. While we weren't as on our game as at Nationals, he still went absurdly well and presented a really nice picture. The judge just wasn't looking for a Lancey at this show. Such is showing. It's just the nature of the game. I immediately let go of expectations for any ribbons.

just a woman on a horse

suddenly a really pregnant woman on a horse


I rode him in the open geldings, the hunter pleasure (where I think we ribboned? fourth or something), and the adult riding horse (no ribbon for us). Erin rode him impeccably in the adult rider class, where they had to swap horses and the rider who got him absolutely could not make him move forward despite being one of the most beautifully stylish and effective riders I have ever seen, perhaps suggesting that most Arabs are just a smidgen hotter than Mr. Lancey.



He even helped out both the kiddos who came along. They each had a bit of a confidence wobble on their own horses, for various reasons, and we all know that the cure for wobbly confidence is just a little bit of unicorn magic. This included getting dressed up as the Grinch for one kiddo,



and going into the best walk class, which he won, for another.


When the General Breed classes rolled around, Erin and I were both excited. She was riding him in the best pleasure horse class, and I had him in the open show hack, my first go at an open hack class on him. Erin had him looking absolutely amazing. She put his mane into the most stunning running plait and we decided to leave his tail as it is, since he is an Arabian, after all. Also, can you believe that not one whisker is clipped on this horse? The darkness around his eyes and muzzle is makeup, courtesy of Erin. She somehow made him look even prettier than the traditionally shaved Arabs without having to disturb a single whisker. We didn't have one single negative comment on his turnout for the entire show.

shout-out to the lesson mom who bought me this stunning browband and matching brooch for Christmas <3 such a bucket list item for me


Erin's classes were first that Saturday, and we were all fairly astonished when she didn't place in the top two in the best three-gaited. Lanceycorn went like a perfect angel, and the judge gave her a test that included two 20m circles; she was the only one who rode actual 20m circles. Everybody else rode them the width of the Dome, which is at least 40m. According to the judge, Erin made them too small. Look, I respect what showing judges do, and dressage judges get their fair share of hate, but at least they know how big a meter is.



We sent them straight into the next class since we had a scratching for it, and in the best pleasure horse, Erin and Lancey absolutely owned. Lancey was picture perfect in every possible way, but Erin also showed him off with the kind of ringcraft that my nervous butt can only ever dream of, and they were such obvious winners that absolutely no one was surprised when they came out with his first big red ribbon of the show.



There was some silly snafu with the championship and they wouldn't let her go into it, which was a bummer, because I believe they would have absolutely kicked butt. Lancey is a stellar little gentleman for me, but under Erin, he looks like an absolute professional.

There wasn't much time to be annoyed about it, because it was time for us to ride our show hack class.



I had told myself that I didn't want to ride to win at this show, just to enjoy - and I had been enjoying every moment in the saddle. He couldn't possibly have been any more perfect. When we went into the show hack class, though, with a fresh judge and different competition, I was suddenly determined to ride the best individual test we possibly could and show this judge exactly what my Lanceycorn is made of.

We pulled out all the stops. Erin had somehow fixed his connection to the point where he was absolutely perfect even in one hand. I did his extended canter one-handed and part of his trot work, too, and Lancey floated around like the most magnificent little white unicorn who ever lived, which he is. The few other horses in our class also went well and were beautiful, tall, typey bays, which always counts in their favour, but this time, Lancey was unbeatable. He placed first.



I offered for Erin to ride in the championship, since she'd had such a disappointing time earlier, but she more or less shoved me through the gates and wouldn't hear of it. In hindsight, I appreciate this more than words can say. It felt pretty incredible to float around the big, beautiful Dome and hear Lanceycorn called out as the reserve champion.

My baby gave the biggest kick in the lineup while we were waiting for our ribbon, reminding me that this memory has my beautiful horse, my adorable husband, my incredible best friend, and my perfect little baby in it. It honestly doesn't get a whole lot better than that.


Not many horses out there can do four days of showing without one single spook, buck, or moment of irritability, much less crown that achievement by winning a reserve championship while toting around a six-months-pregnant rider, but Lancey can. Because he's amazing.




Chippy is due soon, so that was my last show for a hot minute. At 35 weeks I still hop on for the occasional five-minute walk, mildly impeded by the bump catching on the pommel, and I can't wait to get back on once they're safely here.

God is good.












Tuesday, 13 May 2025

Arab Nationals 2025

I'll start by saying that we've had many really great shows and horse experiences that have brought me so much joy, but this one... well, it takes the cake. This was the best show ever. No two ways about it.

It had an inauspicious start, however. After our debacle at HOY, I had my reservations about entering Lancey at all. I was tired of struggling with the same issue over and over in his connection---and so was he. In fact, I'd largely stopped even trying to do dressage with him because we just couldn't get past the head-flipping. Even putting him in a Pelham did hardly any good at all; he held his neck all pretty, but didn't give me a true connection through to his hind feet.

But the Arab shows at the Afridome are always such an incredible experience that I had to give it another shot. So I did the thing that we're never supposed to do. I put him in the double bridle in a bid to solve his connection problem. And, go figure, it actually really did.

About two weeks before Arab Nationals, I slipped Arwen's double on to see what he thought. I assumed he would immediately be fussy and unhappy about having two bits in his mouth and was prepared to take it off the minute he said no to it. But he didn't. He just stood there looking at me with his puppy eyes. So I took him into the arena and rode him, and it was like having an entirely new horse. His permanently chompy, tight, unhappy mouth was magically still. I could feel his hind legs in my hands and make tiny adjustments. The difference was so profound that I could suddenly sit his canter in a way I never had before. He was immediately up into the bridle instead of falling BTV, which, yes, makes no sense at all, I know.

It was incredible. I'm not sure why the double worked so well, but I'm not complaining, not even a little. Lancey has a long and weird history with connection---he learned quite nicely with me many years ago, but then had a jumping kiddo with stiff hands for a few years, and learned to run around with his nose high in the sky. He's not the typical horse when it comes to his mouth, so I guess it's not that surprising that he goes by a different set of rules.

Anyway, I was just happy to actually enjoy schooling him for once, and he seemed to enjoy being schooled, too. Of course, he needs a ton of strength to achieve true collection and for his gaits to really develop to their full potential---but the difference was big enough that I called the Arab people and asked them to move my entries from the novice classes to the open classes. I would rather do a good ride and get no placings in the open class than wrestle him around another novice and get a ribbon. It's done our relationship no good to fight about the connection all the time. Erin gave us a lesson the day before the show and concurred that he would be fine in the open classes.

It was with happy anticipation that we prepped Lancey for the show. I'd succeeded in doing enough writing in advance that I could take the Friday, Saturday, and Sunday of the show off, which was fantastic and much-needed. We would have taken Mawarda too, but he unfortunately had a little bit of biliary, not at all serious, but needed a break. So it was just DH and Lancey and me as we got in the box and headed off for gorgeous Parys.

The heavens opened about half an hour from home and we drove through the most intense downpour ever. It was a white-knuckled few minutes, but thanks to our newly installed horsebox camera, we watched Lancey absolutely chilling all the way. He didn't care even a little and contentedly munched hay as we got through the storm and drove uneventfully to Parys.

It was afternoon when we arrived, but we still had plenty of time to do some leisurely unpacking and stretch Lancey's legs. We had a nice stable on the very end of the aisle in a relatively quiet section (lots of the stables were full elsewhere), and I was worried at first that he'd be all alone in his row, but luckily a friend arrived that evening and moved in two doors down from him. Not that Lancey seemed particularly bothered---being raised as an orphan foal has made him a bit socially awkward but has the advantage that he doesn't really care if other horses are around or not. Useful, if a bit dysfunctional.

I fed him dinner---I suddenly realized that the little bro needs a bit more weight if he's going to be a proper show horse, so he's getting actual grain, which is not something that features in my Nooities' lives---and we quickly booked into the absolutely perfect little flat we'd found only a block away from the show. This place was incredible. If anybody's local, hit me up for the recommendation. I honestly can't overstate how great it was.

On returning to the show, we got to watch the liberty classes for a while. They're so much fun and so unique to the Arab breed. I can't get over how amazing the liberty horses are to go from absolutely flying around with flaggy tails to standing quietly to be caught at the drop of a hat. The liberty always seems to show off the pure essence of the Arabian, allowing them to be what they were born to be, without interference. They're just magic.

Armika Maxilove (I think)

After watching the magic, I went to saddle up Lancey, planning to school him in the indoor briefly. He'd been going like a superstar all week and is familiar with the Afridome, so I wasn't worried about actually schooling him much, but I do like to do a lap in there so that Mr. I Don't Like Weird Shadows wouldn't needlessly lose a class due to a snorty moment.

We ran into the only difficulty he gave me all show at this point. It was raining cats and dogs, and while the stable block and Dome are all indoors, there were a few puddles around. Lancey doesn't do water---it's the one thing he adamantly says no to. I had to get off and lead him to the indoor and get my boots wet because he wouldn't go without my leading the way. Once we actually got into the indoor, with horses spooking in all directions, bright spotlights, and the restaurant clattering around, he was totally chill.

I rode him only briefly; he was pretty freaking perfect, and anyway, there was that one person long-lining a horse in a questionable manner, so we all cleared out of there before that situation could escalate. I tucked him up in bed, put on his suit so he wouldn't get too grubby, and then we went back to our room to eat KFC and fall asleep watching an old movie. Peak showcation, if you ask me.

We were back at the show bright and early the next morning because we had the open geldings class at some dreadful hour and Lancey, the most relaxed show horse in the world, had slept in his poo, as he always does. I'd much rather have a chill boy who sleeps in his stable than a clean one, but it does mean we do quite a lot of scrubbing. Once again, with the wash bays fully populated, the portable horsebox wash bay proved a miracle. He'd been bathed the day before but still seemed a bit yellow around the edges; it was too cold to do a full bath, so I just washed the stinky bits and hoped for the best.

Turning him out was otherwise pretty delightful. Arabs usually show natural so I just brushed him and made him shiny and Wampummed his legs to within an inch of their life. Before long, I was on him and cantering around the warmup, and he felt like a million bucks. We didn't spend much time in the warmup that morning; it basically poured rain most of the day.

Hubby leaped into action as we waited in the chute. This man is pleasantly bored and patiently helpful at most shows, but Arab shows are a whole different story. He is INTO the Arab thing. He brushed. He polished. He wiped boots and bits. He ordered me not to canter in the muddy spot because it would make my horse dirty. It was awesome.

We headed into a big, strong geldings class with no expectations except having some fun, and fun was certainly had. He was incredible on the rail, not even looking at the spooky restaurant that sometimes makes him turn his head or lose rhythm. The judge, who is also a horse welfare representative and the kind of judge you really want to impress, pulled us somewhere in the middle after the rail and let us do our own tests.

I was feeling good as we headed out for our test. Erin made us a nice one that shows off his obedience really well, and he floated around, being his glorious, unproblematic self. We did have a little miscommunication in the extended trot where I touched the curb rein to balance him and he thought he should canter instead. Bummer, but we fixed it quickly, and the rest was gorgeous and perfect, and when the judge pinned us fourth, I was really, really happy. This is Arab Nationals, after all. You don't just get ribbons at Arab Nationals. I had hoped we might get one for the whole show, and having achieved my goal, I could now forget all about ribbons and merely enjoy myself. (So I thought!) The championship class went fine but we didn't get any rosettes, as expected.

Our next class was one I'd been dreading: the best rider class. I'd only ever done one once before, many many years ago on Nianell, and it was a complete train wreck because teenage me had not been well prepared by any stretch of the imagination. I always say that I won't do best rider in case there's a horse swap and I end up on somebody's crazy horse... but to tell the truth, I just didn't believe I was any good. (Thanks, impostor syndrome). But when we had to scratch Mawarda I felt sorry for his kiddo's parents and offered to buy the class from them, and when they said they'd give it to me for free, I couldn't exactly just pull out then at that moment, could I?

So it was that on a wing and a prayer and kindness from good people, Lancey and I headed into yet another big strong class. All the pros were riding with us and the standard was high. I white-knuckled my way around the arena, terrified that we'd have to gallop without stirrups or stand on our heads or something. In the end, our judge didn't ask for any tricks. He gave us an ordinary rail and a dead simple test: walk away, trot a little, canter down the long side, trot, halt. No big deal.

I was relieved when it was over. I was astonished when he pulled us out in third place. My head was still spinning from shock when we returned for the championship, where we rode on the rail only, and I was too surprised to focus at all on anything but Lancey was perfect.

the show photos were SO EXPENSIVE so have a screenshot

We came into the lineup and the riders who'd beaten me in the adult class came first and second, and then they were saying that Sir Lancelot was third in the top five. I did not say, "Glory to the King," or any of the other nice things I should have said. I said, "What the f***," loud enough that the child rider next to me giggled. Sorry everyone. My bad.

Then we headed out to get our first ever championship ribbon at an Arab show, and DH was cheering like a madman.

The judge said he loved Lancey and that I rode "very nicely," but asked me to pick up my horse's frame a bit. (The judge made no mention of my horse's hairy ears and very long whiskers; even though Lancey is almost always the only hairy Arab at the show, I've never had a judge say anything about them). I was still expecting him to tell me that I needed to ride him more forward, but this was apparently not the case. I had finally mastered the art of riding forward enough for showing, it would appear. This gave me a massive confidence boost---I had been worrying about going too slowly so much that I didn't worry about where his head was at all.

day one haul

After this, Lancey had the physio, who offered sessions at the show. I've always worried about the tender spot behind his wither, but she didn't find anything concerning in it. It's just the place where he holds his tension. The only other spot that was a bit sore was his TMJ, which was from the constant chomping and fussing and unhappiness in the snaffle. I anticipate that there won't be any soreness there from now on, he's so quiet in the double. His SI, usually his issue, is perfect. I asked about him carrying his hips to the right and she said his left was a bit stronger than his right and so pushes him to one side, so lots of shoulder-in right is in our future. Overall, though, there was nothing really going on with him.

costume horse inspo, I thought the red looked awesome, Erin says it looks like Father Christmas

Then we hung out in Parys for the afternoon, letting Lancey relax and have some peace. This commenced one of the happiest afternoons I can remember. It was kind of cold, so we started with hot chocolate at this super cute little deli, then proceeded to my favourite secondhand bookshop in the world, where I scored a whole lot of Jeffery Deavers and Dick Francises for like R20 each (roughly $5). We found a gelato shop---it was warmer by then---and strolled along the street eating incredible dark chocolate gelato. I was merrily licking my gelato, chattering incessantly about our noble victory in the best rider championship, when DH put his hand on my head and turned it so I could see a sign for yet another secondhand bookshop. Inside, I found EVEN MORE Deavers and Dick Francises. We left with an inadvisable amount of books. Like... a lot of books. An embarrassing number.

We returned that evening to take His Lanceyness for a long hand walk and get my hired costume from a wonderfully nice man who owns an Arab stud and agreed to let me rent one of the native costumes. He was super kind even though I had to ask him to show me how to put the costume on---I really felt welcomed with open arms despite being a newb in this specific corner of the equestrian world. It was a lovely change from some of the drama we've been having this year.

We rounded off the day by waiting an annoyingly long time for pizza in town, after which I slept like a baby.

Our classes started a little later on Saturday so we had a relatively leisurely morning and gave Lancey a full bath with purple shampoo, which made a world of difference, especially to his mane. Normal shampoo simply doesn't cut it there. It was warm enough that he wasn't miserable---he really hates being cold---and he looked so pretty afterwards. He warmed up like a real angel for the adult riding horse class, which was enormous. I think there were fifteen of us, and it was all the open riders with all their very best horses. It's always a super competitive class and a highlight of the show.

I was delighted to be in such company and not expecting a ribbon at all, but I was determined to improve his frame and ride him like a proper showing pony and not a novice-level dressage horse. He is twelve years old, after all, and I've put soooo much work into him. He can go like a grown-up if I do my bit. I concentrated really hard on asking him to raise his forehand and move more under himself, and he felt different but amazing as we headed into the ring.

The rail went on forever. It was extremely busy, with Arabs in all directions. I passed others twice and then somehow we found a perfect bubble and just stayed there for the entire rail, never getting squashed behind anyone. That can make or break a class like this and much of it was sheer dumb luck. It does also help when we have a very big class because most horses will eventually get annoyed with other horses passing or circling, but not Lancey. He ponies Wynnie out all the time---short of actually climbing on top of him, none of our classmates could do anything like what she does on a regular basis.

The judge called us all to walk and started picking us out of the lineup. He pulled Lancey out first, so I took a respectful spot somewhere near the middle, thinking he'd merely pulled us because we happened to go by him early.

The judge came over and shooed me up to the other end of the arena, and I suddenly realized, like a thunderclap, that we were winning.

My brain dribbled out of my ears at this point. I sat there with my mouth hanging open as the other riders---professional riders on champion horses---lined up all to our left. Lancey cocked a foot and went to sleep. DH was bouncing up and down on the stands, smile lighting up the whole world the way it always does.

there's always time for a Dome milkshake

We still had a test to get through, and the judge explained a simple one to keep the class short: walk away, trot a little, change rein in trot, change rein again with some walk in the middle, canter from the walk, canter down the long side, trot, and halt. It wasn't complicated, which instantly worried me. Lancey's great hallmark is his obedience; the more tricky the test, the more he stands out. I would have to ride for my life if we wanted to cling onto a ribbon in this class.

My blood was pounding in my ears when we rode out of the lineup. I wasn't falling to bits---I didn't have that horrible dead-jellyfish feeling like in previous years at the Supremes---but I definitely felt the pressure of being at the top of this gigantic class. (I was also completely flabbergasted, which didn't help). However, we kept it together. We trotted nicely. We walked nicely. He stepped up into the canter with tremendous obedience but perhaps not as much balance and power as he could have if I'd set him up a little better. It was all fine.

You don't win a class like this on "fine." You win it on "perfect," which is what the second-placed horse---ridden by the nice man who rented me the costume---delivered. I was unsurprised when they called him out for the first-place ribbon, but still completely amazed when they called us out second.

The judge adored Lancey. He said he was "perfectly schooled," but the canter transition of the first-placed horse was better. I knew it was and was still over the moon with our second place. I had him throw his toes a bit in the lap of honour and DH was just about losing his mind in excitement. That's a moment I won't forget for a long, long time, I can tell you.

We headed back to the stables for two more classes. Lanceyboy was still being absolutely wonderful. He was by no means flat or tired, just the same happy, contented boy he'd been all show long. There just aren't many horses in the whole world like this one, and knowing him is a breathtaking privilege, ribbons or no ribbons. Every single time he saw me at this show, he whinnied. It was the cutest thing in the world.

We joked that he did better than the previous day because we'd bought him organic carrots and apples from Woolworths, where the fancy folks shop around here, the night before. Woolworths carrots clearly make your horse more fancy than normal carrots.

The next class was senior hunter pleasure. I still don't know what that is, but I give it my best shot every time. I plaited him up, exchanged the double for a Kimberwick, and scrambled aboard. He goes okay in the Kimberwick---perhaps not as collected as I can get him in the double, but the whole point of hunter pleasure is to go low and forward, so that was fine. We had a quick warmup, practicing our hand gallop, and headed in with a large, strong class. Lancey and I led the way. It's always a bit spooky being the first horse into the Dome, especially in hunter pleasure, where you trot in on the opposite rein to the other classes. But Lanceycorn stormed in there at a bold, flying trot, making me grin all over my face.

We had a different judge for this one, a nice American lady. I never remember how these classes go, so I just listened to the announcer. We trotted, cantered, hand galloped, and then walked. (My dressage soul says that when the judge says "hand gallop" and then says "walk" one must execute a gallop to walk without trotting; Lancey is delighted to oblige, causing great consternation behind us). I forgot which way round to turn (I'm still not sure which way it is, tbh) and we did the same on the other rein.

DH was super pumped after our prior victories. At dressage, he chills on the grandstand, taking video, mildly bored. During this class, he was right on the rail with all the owners. The owners were yelling encouragement and instructions to the riders. DH, who I suppose could classify as Lancey's owner (he refers to him as "Pa se perd," Daddy's horse), was soon shouting at me to pick up Lancey's head. I was mildly surprised by this---he's never tried to coach me before---but obediently did so, and, watching the video, hubby was spot on. I did need to pick up his head. I'm still amused.

Also according to DH, one of the stud owners in the crowd told someone else in the crowd that if the judge didn't place Lancey, she was insane. He told me this very passionately afterward, but he needn't have worried. Lancey pinned fourth. Not too shabby at all.

As the evening rolled on, we gave Lancey a break and went to find a long-sleeved shirt for me to wear under my costume. Then we returned and tackled the mammoth task of putting our costume on. My bit was simple enough---I had to ditch the headdress because it didn't work over my helmet---but getting the breastplate and blanket adjusted right on Lancey took some figuring out. Eventually our friend S who runs a yard in town appeared and assisted, and a friendly lady in the warmup helped, and finally we were all aboard and riding around the warmup in full costume.

Lancey's worn a costume once before in his life, but also, I rode him on my wedding day in layers and layers of petticoats, so I wasn't worried. I didn't need to be. He didn't care at all that he had tassles and things flying all around him.

We did a short warmup to make sure he was happy to wear his outfit and then went to hang out in the chute, where we found another Arab friend---F, Gulfstream's mom---and chatted with her. Then they called us in for the geldings costume class.

This class is possibly the most fun I had all show, even if we didn't get anywhere, placings-wise. It's not a technically difficult class to survive in (winning it is obviously a different matter)---you canter in, remember to do no trotting, and then just go really fast when they tell you to hand gallop. Lancey led the way once more, boldly cantering into the arena, and we even managed a little acceleration for hand gallop bit. Once my dressage rider self made peace with the face that the costume flaps and makes you feel like it's you that's flapping, all was well.

It was so much fun. Of course, I wasn't expecting ribbons. I wasn't in my full costume, for one thing, and for another, one is supposed to emulate a fierce Bedouin prince galloping across the desert to intimidate his enemies. Lancey is many things, but fierce and intimidating are not among those things. We rode the championship because we were fifth out of five (and therefore technically in the top five) and had the time of our lives.

He was sweaty and a bit breathless from all the galloping but still chipper as ever when we returned to our stable and gave him a very well-earned dinner and rest. After sleeping over with Erin's parents, who were so kind to us (and Erin's cat cuddled my husband all night), we got an early start the next morning and brought His Lanceyness home. He loaded and traveled like the perfect angel he is and trotted off into the field without a care in the world, tail flagging, feet flying.

Thus ended one of my favourite ever memories. I'll cherish this show for a long time, especially because of my little white unicorn and my dream-supporting favourite person in the world.

God is so good.

Thursday, 20 March 2025

Horse of the Year 2025 Part One: Arabs

pics by Mawarda's kiddo's lovely mom

You guys, I have SO. MUCH. MEDIA from this show! I also have a lingering horse show hangover, so for once, it will be light on the words and heavy on the pictures.

I wasn't going to take Lancey to HOY this year, even though I really looked forward to showing him here after Summershow in November. When I did the Nooities' entries, the budget simply didn't stretch as far as another entry for Lancey, too. I elected to leave the little guy at home and take only Mawarda and his child. But at the last minute - a week before the show - an entry for the novice riding horse class came up for sale. I snapped it right up. We were going to HOY.

In the madness of getting Thunder back into work after his boo-boo and prepping Arwen, Wynnie, Faith, Raya, Rene, and Charlie for HOY, I hadn't given poor old Lancey much attention beyond hacking with friends since Summershow, so we jumped into a five-day boot camp to get our ducks in a row for HOY. There was no question about his fitness - Lancey holds fitness like a beast; I bet you could fetch him out of the field and ride a showing class without getting him out of breath - but we definitely felt a bit rusty in the arena.

To make matters worse, when I have been schooling him lately, we're working on changing the frame and getting him in a more uphill balance as for an open showing horse. Unfortunately, this led us to run up against his age-old issue of throwing his head against the hand. He's had every check under the sun and the issue doesn't come from elsewhere in his body - it's an old habit from a previous rider. We'd more or less conquered it, and he'll work in a low, soft novice frame without a problem, but inviting him to come up into collection just triggers the old habit in a big way.

eek

Thus, having muddled through our tests in something of a mess, we popped him on the box on the Thursday morning of HOY with Mawarda and headed off without high hopes for ribbons but with the happy anticipation of getting to go out and do an Arab class, which I was really excited for.

For some reason, I, in my wisdom, had decided that an hour was enough time to get ready for my class, including getting snowy-white Lancey's stains cleaned up. The only reason why I managed to show at all on this day was because DH rigged up a portable wash bay using a water tank in the front of the horsebox and a little pump with a hose and nozzle. This thing was absolutely magical for washing Lancey's legs and the odd stain on his butt and flanks. No more struggling around with a bucket. I got him cleaned up and shine sprayed, brushed his hair, and hopped on to warm up.

at least he really was clean

The warmup by the Members Arena can be pretty spooky for no apparent reason and there was some snorting from Lancey, but he remained the very best boy as I started our warmup. He was against my hand a little, but getting better when DH arrived to tell me that Mawarda had just pulled his kiddo's dad right off his feet - a rude habit we have since remedied with a stallion chain and careful timing - resulting in a scraped knee and the kiddo being in tears. I instantly began to worry about poor little kiddo, who is only eleven and riding her second HOY ever. I was still worrying about her as we headed into the show ring, and truth be told, I didn't stop.

In the end, my worrying proved useless. Kiddo's dad was fine, kiddo pulled herself together admirably, and Mawarda was a perfect little angel once she was on his back. But I kept eyeing her in the warmup as we were going around the arena instead of, you know, riding my horse.

riding, instead of whatever this is, would have helped

Barring one snort at a big scary sign on the arena fence, Lancey handled this new-to-him venue with great aplomb and went around the go-round like a star except that he did throw his head against the bridle multiple times. I wasn't focused enough to truly keep him on my aids and had the miserable impression that I was riding the most well-schooled horse in the ring but making him look like a green bean. Still, he was being angelically good for his distracted mom, so I gave him many pets and good boys when we stood in the lineup.

The extremely kind and lovely British judge gave us all a simple test to do (albeit necessitating the ring steward to explain to a very Afrikaans kiddie rider). We walked away, trotted a bit, cantered a change of rein, cantered down the long side, trotted up, walked, and halted. By this point I was no longer stressed about the kiddo but still fairly distracted, and if I'm not *perfectly* on my game in the contact with Mr. Lancey, we have real difficulty getting it back. He was super obedient for the test but not remotely on my aids for most of it and it also didn't include a rein-back or lengthened trot, which is usually where the little bro stands out.

looking up would also have been of assistance

I had no hopes of a ribbon as we fell into a heap at the end of our test, but I was having a good time and so pleased with how mature and sweet and lovely and perfect my Lanceycorn is. We got off and took off our saddles, during which I forgot that you should, like, hold the reins in the show ring, but Lancey just stood there like a good boy with no one holding him.

We haven't trotted up in hand for ages, but he was absolutely perfect in every way for this, and also of course stood like an angel to be saddled up again and for me to scramble aboard. And then, to my surprise, we pinned second despite the contact issues. I guess his perfect manners endeared him to the judge despite my wobbling around.

The rest of the show went super well; Mawarda's child won the children's riding horse class in fine style and survived through a best rider class full of grownups, even if she lost a stirrup during one transition and then didn't get it back for what felt like ten thousand years ("I was showing the judge what a good rider I am without a stirrup, Auntie Firn," she earnestly told me.)

please admire his quarter marks, doing them gives me a n x i e t y

Despite the generalized chaos, everyone was dead happy as we luxuriously hosed off our horses at the box and loaded up to go home. It was a great start to one of the most fun HOYs we've done - and we've done a few great ones.

the hubby who makes my dreams come true 💜


Thursday, 27 February 2025

15 More Questions

You know what I miss? A good ol' blog hop. Luckily for me, Anna had even worse weather than I ever do, so she posted one!

1 – What would you consider to be your favorite item you’ve purchased for your horse?


Oooh, tough one. Y'all know I'm not big on shopping, but I'll have to vote for the nearly-new brown Wintec 500 I bought for Arwen in 2023. It was such a literal Godsend - the first saddle I tried fit the horse great and I got it from a friend, so there was no fussing around with awkward trial periods or couriers. Although I have to say that my cute show ear thingy is also very high on the list.

okay so this helmet, these Nu Angles, the double bridle my friends and hubs got me, and the blue glitter browband are also on the list


2 – When you found your current horse, what drew you to them?

I found my horses and my husband the same way - they kind of just showed up. Skye and Arwen arrived so long ago that I barely remember any specific reason about liking them, I just liked them because I was a horse kid and they were horses. (Of course, I found lots of reasons to like them later on). Thunder I loved because I was a horse kid and he was a foal - even better.

I picked Faith out of her group of two-year-olds at the time because she had an ethereal, airy-fairy beauty. Not the greatest reason to pick out a horse, but she really still looks not-quite-real, and is far bigger and more athletic than those same peers today.

Lancey was a repo case - I claimed him because his people couldn't pay his stabling. I originally planned to resell him, but his perfectly cuddly, goofball personality made him too irresistible, and I realized that you only ever get one Lancey in your life. It would have been silly to let him go.

Finally, I picked Wynnie and Raya's sire primarily for his movement. He had all the basic things that would have been total deal-breakers for me if they weren't in place (good feet, good mouth, good brain, good back), but his free, elastic movement set him apart from others in the breed.

3- If you could move your horse and yourself anywhere in the world, budget is no problem; where would you go and why?

I think it would be really fun to spend one season in a super horsy neighborhood overseas like Ocala and be fully immersed in that culture, but only for a season. I love where we are. It's far enough outside the city that it feels very rural, but all the major shows, vets, and other amenities are an hour away. Absolutely perfect.

4 – Is there something on your horsey wish list you’re coveting? What is it? (new pad, halter, bridle, a trailer, etc)

I'm dying to completely level out and redo my arena footing, but without a tractor, it's proving to be a challenge. We'll likely have to hire a tractor next spring to do it. In the meantime, trusty old Flash has been harnessed to the harrow and has to pull it around every time it rains, so that's fun.

5- Do you have a playlist for your horse? What is on it?

I don't have a playlist, but Arwen does have a song. It is a relic of my upbringing as a homeschooled teenager whose friends were only allowed to play Minecraft and delved the oddest corners of the internet. You have been warned.


6 – In 3 sentences or less, describe your horse- bonus points if you can use a gif. (inspired by Mamas Magic Way being described as one of Boyd Martin’s kids in a recent article tbh)

Ages ago we assigned an animated movie character to each horse. This is the perfect time to showcase them.

Arwen is obvious.

the Nightest Fury there ever was

Thunder is warm, cuddly, and always patient with my general BS. He's also chubby and in his extended canter you can practically hear him say, "I am not fast." He's obviously Baymax.

Me: Oh no I'm bad at life! Thunder: There, there.


Lancey is another obvious one. "Some people are worth melting for."




7 – If you could go see a clinic or participate, who would you audit/participate in? (Again, budget is no question here)


This one is tough for me, because as much as we all want to ride with Olympians, I do not ride an Olympic-bred horse. I love having J as my coach specifically because he has shown many off-breed horses all the way to GP, so he understands how to break down movements into tiny bite-sized pieces and introduce them to horses to whom they don't come naturally.

I think it would be really fun to watch a completely different clinic to the worlds I'm used to, like Western or saddle seat.

8 – Favorite fictional horse?

This is super niche, but I loved Ardanwen from The Letter for the King. Not only is Ardanwen the fastest Friesian in all the land (as they always seem to be), he also spends most of his time rescuing the hapless main characters from all kinds of disaster. He also carries most of the plot on his back, let's be honest.




9 – Opinions on Devacoux’s latest saddle design?

I'm neither smart enough (or, let's be real, in the right price bracket!) to know what it's really about, but I will say that it's a little silly-looking. If it works, though, who cares?

10 – If money was no problem, would you get a custom saddle?

Absolutely. With many sparkles. Nothing really fits my oddly-shaped little round horses perfectly, so as much as we happily make do with what we have, it would be cool to get the perfect fit.

11 – If your horse wasn’t a horse, what animal would they be? (basically copy paste your horse’s personality into another animal – what animal would they be)

We've long since established that Arwen is a dragon (and so is Wynnie) and Lancey is a unicorn. Thunder would be a big, fluffy dog or an orange cat. Skye is a pegasus. I will die on this hill. (You never said they had to be real animals).

12- Favorite horse and rider combo? (i.e Boyd Martin and Fedarman B)

That's an easy one: Becky Moody and Jagerbomb. They look like such a harmonious partnership even though Jagerbomb is clearly a bit of a live wire, and her social media is humble and hilarious. Plus he's a homebred like my Thunderbird. Love it.

13 – What was your favorite or best advice for horses you were ever given?

J said to me once that every horse is a Grand Prix horse until proven otherwise. Sure, not every horse actually will be able to compete at Grand Prix. But if you set aside barriers like soundness and extreme age, approaching every single horse like they have the ability to go all the way puts a measure of belief behind them that might just surprise you with its results. That doesn't mean pushing or forcing a horse to be something they physically can't or mentally don't want to be; it's just believing in them and daring to dream audaciously.

14 – What is the best and worst registered name for a horse that you’ve seen recently?

I don't really want to pick the worst name because, you know, somebody did pick that name and thought it was a cute name, but I do find the Friesian names kind of funny. 17 hands of midnight and fire bound by muscle and lit with strength - and you show it under the Dutch equivalent of, like, Joe or Henry or Pete. Hilarious.

Magic had the stupidest racehorse name I've ever seen. He was called Gadsfly, poor bro.

I love lots of the old Afrikaans names that the Nooities and Boerperde have, like Voorslag (the cracker on the end of a whip), Vastrap (firm steps, also a traditional dance), Bomskok (shellshock), Voorspoed (prosperity), and Haastig (in a hurry). Waaksaam (alert) is another favourite. One used to come across lots of horses with Boer War names but I haven't met a De La Rey in a while.

15 – Do you want to try another discipline or something fun with your horse?

If I had unlimited time, Arwen and I would 100% be doing working equitation. SO fun.

16 – Free space! Leave a funny story, photo, advice, a quote, or something you want to pass along to the next person!


This is a Sebright (albeit not a show quality one). They're adorable and about the size of a pigeon. I thought you should know.

God is good.

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